Thursday, May 30, 2013

Heart to Hearth: Where Mamas Gather

It's been a long time coming, but I created a special Mama Group on Facebook.

If you feel that this description fits home, by all means, please let me know, and join in.


Heart to Hearth is a place where Mamas gather.

Come as you are -full of love, full of tears, full of big, enlightening, sometimes confusing, and frustrating feelings -chances are we've all been there in one way or another. Come to heal, share stories, ask questions, post things that opened your eyes, and hearts, whatever you feel called to, and remember that advice isn't necessary, but open hearts and ears are always in need. It's about us. It's about our children. It's about how we're all in this together.

Here we can be in each other's presence, holding the space, fully supported, without judgement, in a non-competitive environment. This space is not moderated, so please, take a breath before you hit enter. Please remember to honor everyone's place and path as their own, and don't forget that you are never alone as we weave this beautiful story of our lives together.

Invite your Mama pals, and Women preparing, and waiting to be Mamas, grab a cup of what you need, get comfortable, and feel the love. Take what you need, and leave the rest. There's something here for everyone.

I was inspired to begin this group the moment I became a Mama, but never felt the deep call to until I became a SouLodge Sister, where the values are the same. Thank you, beautiful and inspiring, unconditionally loving, spiritual midwife, Pixie Campbell.

http://pixiecampbell.com/soulodge

I love you all.

xo,
Nichole


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Monday, February 11, 2013

Morning Intentions


This melts me.  He snuggled his brother as I grabbed the camera.


In addition to a gratitude journal practice I recently began a morning intention practice.   I am grateful to be inspired by the lovely Hannah Marcotti, and especially this post.

Every start is different.  Sometimes they come right away, and sometimes a while after we've been up.  Some come from things that happened the day before, some from my journal, some from the morning mood, both the boys and mine, but all of them from my heart.

I also love capturing our Starting Moments over at Instagram (#startingmoments).  Another fun thing inspired by Hannah.

I really enjoy this little ritual and the boys love taking pictures and hearing how much I love them, so it's win-win.

Peace.

Seeing himself
Starting (after my huge cup of warm honey-lemon water).

I recommend sitting with this idea and seeing if it resonates with you as well.  It's definitely a game changer.

Here are some of my first morning intentions.:


Love everyone as they are, not as I sometimes want them to be. 
Be kinder than necessary. Stop more often.

Pick your battles. Let go.

Just be present and give your attention to that which is in front of you. 
Lay down your needless worries.

I know that breakups can be painful. 
But me, perfection and insecurity just aren't meant to be. 
Continue to loosen up.

Let the day unravel at its own pace, and go with the flow. 
Release any expectations and worries as they arise.

Stop when my name is called. 
Stop even when it isn't.

Have fun.

Don't ever forget that being the change is more important than talking about the change.

Saturday, February 9, 2013

A Mantra from My Heart



As I lay Bodhi or Z to sleep sometimes I find myself crying.  Sometimes out of frustration, anger, or exhaustion, but often out of love.

It's so easy to get frustrated at bedtime.  It's like the final homestretch to unwinding from your twelve to fourteen hour day (more or less).

Some nights I lay with Bodhi for an hour, or more.  It's not that often, but the average is fifteen to thirty minutes.  Same with Z.

Some people think I'm nuts.  That's okay.

The truth is, really, I love bedtime.  It's a sacred time between mama and babe.  Special one-on-one time with each babe at the end of the day, where special moments happen.  When I'm willing to surrender.  You learn a lot about one another, and how each of you saw the day.  We cuddle and love, and I read, sing, and tickle them, until they fall asleep.  Sometimes I fall asleep too.

But there have been nights where bedtime, with both boys, has lasted over two hours.  It's when I start thinking -I'm done.  I am so done.  Please.  Please fall asleep.

Then one night, I lay there so frustrated, not wanting to get angry, and my heart whispered to me...

You teach me to be humble.
You teach me to surrender.
You teach me unconditional love.
Thank you.  Love.  

I cannot tell you how often these simple words have centered me, and saved us.

It is good to remember, any time any of those anxiety producing feelings arise.  It stops me.  Sometimes it brings me to tears.

It reminds me of just how precious and amazing they are, and what this moment can be, if I only let it.

Really, every moment is.

Thank you, Maezen, for showing me, that my life is my practice.

Friday, February 1, 2013

This Moment

(A gift)
{these moments} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.  Inspired by SouleMama.
If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see.


Monday, January 21, 2013

Angry

When you are angry, try acting opposite to the immediate normal reaction that you might want to unleash.

The one that you are pretty sure doesn't work because the results often aren't pretty at all.

The not constructive anger.

The angry anger.

The one that you sometimes hold in to let simmer.  Sometimes simmering makes you sick.

So do the opposite.  Do something nice.

I promise you will be pleasantly surprised.

I have found that it often makes me feel better.

Who knew?

P.S.  It's not the me feeling better that means the most, it's everyone feeling better, because we're all in this together.

Friday, January 18, 2013

This Moment


This boy learned to ride the big bike in less than ten minutes yesterday.




{these moments} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.  Inspired by SouleMama.
If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

To-Do List

My to-do list has a few interesting items tucked away in it.

These are very important activities that I can't pass up.

I don't want to forget them, in the midst of every other "important" thing I have to do.

Play.

Rest.

Sit down.

Meditate.

Drink water.

Sleep.

Stop worrying.

Look around, pause, take it in.

Say, "I love you."

Relax.

Go outside.

Make something.

Stop.

Now doesn't that feel better?